2023. 2. 7. 06:11ㆍ미국박사유학
Recently I submitted a paper to a workshop conference. It was a bit exhausting (as it is supposed to be) and embarrassing due to the fact that I was not the one who actually made the story of the paper. At the same time, lots of lessons were learned and felt like I know my advisor a little bit more than I did at least. In the end, it was a great journey.
What I learn
It was a decent commitment for me not to give it up at the midway point but “drag” it to the finish line anyway without mentally being fallen apart. It is actually a big change, considering how my condition was when submitting the last paper a couple of years ago. The important thing was don’t be alone. have a fun time with your friend. don’t talk too much about what you are struggling with or what you are suffering from. Now whining is for you not for them. It doesn’t help you at all. Counting on your friend and whining to your friend are not the same.
I feel like I become more efficient and effective (still many rooms to improve) to communicate with a team and got more capacity to deal with the more direct way of talking. There is an undergrad working together on the project. His attitude and his way of talking are more comfortable and I feel Brighten also feels that too. That lets him feel more comfortable. I want Brigthen to be more comfortable with me. I didn't count the number exactly but I guess he tries to make his intention more clear by annotating his question when talking to me. For example, "I just asked because ...". This is clearly not what I want. I see Brighten feel more comfortable when he communicated with the undergrad and tries to be more cautious and attentive when communicating with me. I need to give him the impression that I can handle the direct communication style too because I can and I want.
Eating a lot is very important. I wouldn’t tough it out through the exhausting paper deadline process if I didn’t eat lots of food. It would be even better if I ate more. It just gave me more energy and helped me to focus and function effectively. This is so obvious fact even to mention but its importance is often overlooked. Don't forget what 할머니 said! 먹는걸 잘먹어야해!
You literally need to enjoy it. Just don't get worn out. Having a quick chat with Brighten helped a lot so that I don't fall into a swamp of desperation which is the most vicious enemy to me.
Paper writing can be accelerated more than you think at some point. The world is not linear. This rule is very true especially when we talk about paper writing. Therefore, don’t give up until the last minute. Being demoralized will be the most hostile or maybe the only enemy that you need to beat down. If you define the deadline regardless of whether it is an actual conference deadline or virtually decided your own deadline, you just do your best to the deadline. Don’t try to use your brain here but rather be philosophical. What I mean is you just do it because that's the philosophy that you vow to comply with. Just do your best to the deadline and don’t think about the possibility. Don’t try to do fake-smart prediction of whether it will work out or not. Just do it because that’s the rule that you set and you promise to follow this rule.
What I didn’t learn yet
How to “write” a paper.